Man shares his experience with a friend who he says borrows Monoy to finance his relationship.
This was in response to a post where someone also talked of the same issue.
He noted that he had to end relations with his friend because of the same act.
According to him, poor people seems to have an unfounded sence of entitlement.
Read his epistle:
I totally agree with this and I’ll support it with an advice I gave a friend last year.
There is a sincere conversation we need to have as young people concerning the type of friendship and relationship we keep.
I am deeply serious about this, because I saw a friend I willfully ended my friendship with some months back and he’s worse off now.
As far as I can remember, he was not from a poor or rich background, just your average guy trying to find his footing in life. But he was in a steady and committed relationship. A relationship I’ve had to finance with my personal money for him from time to time.
When I got fed up, I sat him down and told him to pick his priority.
“Being in a romantic relationship is a full-time engagement and sincerely, you are not financially balanced to be in one.”
He felt I was being jealous of his relationship. That didn’t make sense to me.
You know what else didn’t make sense to me? He borrows money to buy the most basic things for this lady. He would take a soft loan from me for recharge cards, data, clothes, ice cream, movie tickets and they normally took plenty pictures. They were living the life!
On the flip side, I cut down on all my social engagements to dedicate more time and resources to my brand. I reduced the number of physical friends I have and will only elect to have a hang out if we have a detailed plan on what we’re going to do and how to fund same. I take these things seriously.
When he couldn’t pay up his loan, I took the opportunity to end the friendship and heaved a sigh of relief. By the way it wasn’t a true friendship because he was eating off me every time. And if I dared complain, he would wave it off that I’m being too tight and principled.
I have no problem with young people being in love, but I have a strong concern with the intent of such social engagements.
Your career is blood sucking already. Your life is already asking too much of you, what reasons do you feel you need a romantic relationship at this most unstable point in your life?
Seeing this from a different angle, my ex friend and I are worlds part in terms of our social class, training and education. Each time I tried to let him understand the consequences of his actions, he feels I am being too uptight. Who takes out a soft loan from the son of Nebu to buy a phone for a girlfriend while he is struggling to pay his bills?
Increasingly, I am being pushed to believe that the poorer a person is, the higher their sense of entitlement grows. They feel you owe them something for just trying to become more or better.
Why am I sharing this?
Being in a healthy relationship and friendship is very useful in life, this is why you should be careful and delibrate in making these choices. Create the ambience to attract the right people into your life.
And please, make sure you are not the parasite. If you are not offering anything tangible in return, nobody owes you anything and they can leave whenever they want!!!
Till we get to the Promised Land, I shall be waiting for when you will pass me a glass of water and thank God for the gift of grace for the race.
Martin Beck Nworah
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